An Exploration of Dark Game through ‘The 48 Laws Of Power’ by Robert Greene. (Part 2 of 5) Read at your own risk.

Warning! This is an exploration of the dark side of communication as applied to intergender studies (dating) and should not be implemented by anyone under any circumstances. I accept no liability for what any idiot does.

You have been warned!

Law 10

Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease.  You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster.  The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you.  Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.


Don’t approach women with ‘bitch shields up’. Don’t stay in a set if she won’t engage with you, wordlessly leave or excuse yourself, and never EVER try to comfort a girl crying! More likely than not she is a drama-queen don’t try to get a part in the craziness that is her movie.

Leave, the obese, the unstable, the hot messes, the unhealthy and single mothers ALONE!

Pro tip: If a girl seems nice but her friends are bitchy RUN! Her friends are actually warning you, she is probably the worst of them. Don’t take my word for it.

He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

-Proverbs 13:20

Law 11

Learn to Keep People Dependent on You

To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted.  The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have.  Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear.  Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.


Don’t be yourself, become more. Figure out your strengths and what people especially girls like about you. If you are a comfort-builder, become such an island of understanding and care, that no other guy could possibly compare in this respect.

Comfort-Builder Strategy

Know what she wants and provide it, before even she knows it. Create an ‘us vs them’ mentality. This will draw her closer to you and away from everyone else in her life.

This one is bad so strap in. This is called love-bombing and is a technique used by cults, abusers, and gangs BUT it is also used by Fraternities, Sororities and the Military, other fans include political leaders and groups of all sorts. Or maybe it’s just used by people in love. “Romeo and Juliet” anyone?

The point is to make your target as emotionally dependent on you as possible. As a comfort-builder, you have an intuitive natural ability to envelop people, not just women, in comfort and understanding to a frankly unrealistic and likely unhealthy degree. Think of parents that spoil their children rotten.

You may worry she will pull away from this and that this is beta, but the truth is absolutely beautiful women fall for this all the time. Think of women with rich old men, the late Hugh Hefner comes to mind.

And if you get the prize in the end, who gives a fuck HOW you got her?

On the flip side…

Attractor Strategy

While comfort builders should provide comfort and understanding to a ridiculous degree. Attractors, take the opposite track, make her addicted, to your confidence, your unpredictability, your inherent danger, and raw sex appeal. Your job is to addict her to pleasure. Sexual expression, the high-esteem she gets from having you and keeping you away from other girls, even the pain you cause her from your sometimes callous treatment. It’s all pleasure, don’t believe me? 

Read “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday and come tell me women’s fantasies aren’t worse or at least as bad as men’s. 

(They escape a lot of the outrage that porn gets because they get more turned on by words and can ‘read’ their porn in public.)

Or just read the steamy chapters in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

The point is, know her, her body and her mind. Once you do, you will have her, even is she leaves you. She will compare every other man to you. And provided things don’t get out of hand she will always come back.

Or more succinctly, keep her attracted to you but insecure about how you really feel.

Or even more succinctly, keep her jealous.

Hypergamy is the female sexual strategy.


Evolutionary psychologists contend this is an inherent sex difference arising out of sexual selection, with men driven to seek women who will give birth to healthy babies and women driven to seek men who will be able to provide the necessary resources for the family's survival.[citation needed]


Basically as long as she feels she needs to compete with other women for you, you must be valuable and her sexual strategy and instincts are satisfied.


Law 12

Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim

One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones.  Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people.  Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will.  A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.


There is an old Chinese proverb that says “Give before you take”. So give something that means nothing to you but means everything to the other person and you can get whatever you want from the other person.

E.g People with jobs, crave security, in exchange their employers can squeeze as much work out of them for as little compensation as possible.

Don’t believe me:

“I used to work at McDonald's making minimum wage. You know what that means when someone pays you minimum wage? You know what your boss was trying to say? "Hey if I could pay you less, I would, but it's against the law.”

-Chris Rock

So what do you give?

Simple, that thing she wants more than anything else. Not some cheap gift, not clothes, no the thing she deeply wants.

It could be a secret that signals intimacy. It could be calling a smart girl beautiful or a beautiful girl smart. Whatever it is, seek it out. Does she have an Electra complex? Be her father-figure, or her father (I don’t know what you’re into) Figure out the one thing she was denied as a child and give it to her. Figure out the taboo thing she is into and would die if everyone knew, and tell her you want that too.

Yea, this is inherently creepy, but so are people, men, AND women, so put on your big boy pants and deal with it. You were warned.

Note: Do not fear being called creepy

creepy: causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease.

Since all humans have a shadow side every human is inherently creepy, most people are just really good at hiding it. E.g porn is inherently creepy but it’s ubiquitous. It’s like we as a society decided,

A: Hey this thing is messed up but we all consume it. So…don’t ask don’t tell? Cool?

B: Cool. Hey, but we can still use it to shame people, right?

A: Absolutely! If we don’t use shame and guilt about sex to keep people under control, people might figure out, how we use their natural sexual urges to sell products and accumulate religious and political power over them.

B: Yea, that would be madness, now let’s repeal all of the women’s reproductive rights.

A: Yay!

But on the opposite end, it could be as simple as buying her a golden plastic globe and telling her, “I want to give you the world.”

 Law 13

When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,

Never to their Mercy or Gratitude

If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds.  He will find a way to ignore you.  Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion.  He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.


This one is miraculously effective because you can be actively selfish as long as you show how whatever it is you want benefits her as well.

E.g set the first date at a coffee shop an hour before it closes if it goes well an hour will simply not be enough. But oh no! It’s closing whatever will we do? Does she leave just as it’s getting good or does she agree to come over to your house? You know to continue the fun time, wink, wink.

Or when you drop her off after a date, you innocently ask, "Hey can I use your bathroom?” What’s she supposed to say “no?”

The point is, trying to appeal to her better nature will never work, most women are insanely pragmatic. They have to be, pregnancy lasts for 9 months, so there is no margin for error when it comes to being emotionally involved with men.

So whatever it is you want, figure out a way to present it as an advantage to her.

“No good deed goes unpunished”

-Catherine the Great (probably)

Law 14

Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy

Knowing about your rival is critical.  Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead.  Better still: Play the spy yourself.  In polite social encounters, learn to probe.  Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions.  There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.


Talk to someone about themselves and they will listen for hours.

-Dale Carnegie

But don’t just talk, listen twice as much, as long as you shut up! and listen, people will tell you everything about themselves, especially women. Its scientifically proven, talking brings women physical and mental pleasure.

Have her talk endlessly about herself, actually, LISTEN! And she will tell you everything you need to know to get her. Her dreams, her hopes, her fantasies. And ironically she will thank you for it, I think this is because no one actually listens to anyone anymore, rather they just wait for their turn to speak, unless they are actually being paid to listen e.g therapists.

Truly listening, is love, no two ways about it. If you learn to shut the fuck up! And actually listen, you will reach untold heights of power, you will truly become indispensable to whomever it is you listen to.

Don’t believe me? Then why is the C.I.A so damn powerful?

 Law 15

Crush your Enemy Totally

All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely.  (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.)  If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.  More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation:  The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge.  Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.


When you decide the relationship is done, do not end it gradually, end it swiftly and definitively.


Because if you let her worm her way back in, because you’re lonely or horny or whatever. You might feel good about the return to the status quo, but she will never EVER forget, and if she is so inclined the moment she gets a chance to crush you, she will do so, and never spare a thought about what she has done. Heck, she will convince herself it’s all your fault and that you deserve it and that she’s the real victim. And you know the funny thing? She’d be right.

Ok, ok you are not completely heartless, you want to let her down easy, right? Imagine you’re in love (yes, love!) and the woman you love secretly abhors you, would you rather a clean break that hurts a but ends, or finding out she’s been fucking your best friend behind your back for months while you have been worshiping the ground she walks on?

Having gone through this myself, under truly horrific circumstances, I know which I’d pick.

You might think you’re invincible but trust, she will find your weakness and make you pay. Much better to cut off all contact. Ghost! My friends, Ghost! Never Zombie! That would be like going full retard or Going Eric Benet.

“You almost went Eric Benét
Let the baddest girl in the world get away
I don't even know what else to say
Nigga, never go Eric Benét!”


(For fun look up the story of how Eric Benet lost Halle Berry, it’s a perfect example of what I mean.) And if you’re offended by my use of the word ‘retard’, why are you reading this? Seriously I want to know.)


Law 16

Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down:  The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear.  If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired.  You must learn when to leave.  Create value through scarcity.


Come late, yes it is extremely rude, but celebrities do it for a reason, it asserts dominance, it says “I’m so important, you will wait.” Anytime a woman keeps you waiting, she is subtly telling you this. She’ll say (if she’s polite) it took her forever to get ready.

Or if she flakes she will say she forgot. Only AFCs tolerate this kind of behavior. She’s treating you with contempt, she is telling you she’s better than you and doesn’t know why she is wasting her time with you.

Now don’t go crazy if this happens once, things happen, but twice? 

Don’t see her every day, once the relationship is established. In the beginning, be there as much as you can. (Without setting off red flags.)

Don’t be predictable, women can’t respect men that are reliable. While it’s an admirable quality at work, it is beta as fuck in a relationship.

Flake from time to time, women do it to prove their power, so give them a dose. Scarcity and jealousy are often the very moment a woman realizes she wants you above all others.

 Law 17

Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability

Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions.  Your predictability gives them a sense of control.  Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable.  Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves.  Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.


Respect and power can never be accrued by those that are always, predictable. (Lol, always, predictable…get it?) It’s why the boss can take off whenever he wants and employees get reprimands for being late five minutes late.

The reason humans are the most dominant creatures on earth is not due to our strength fangs or claws, it’s because we, and only we can alter our own behavior.

Constant, consistency is anti-seductive it’s like a story with no surprises, it’s boring.

And being boring is a cardinal sin. It’s weak, played out, stale and on its way out. As mentioned above an element of danger and fear, spices a relationship.

Simply put if she is completely secure she has you, you have already lost her.

 Law 18

Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves.  A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target.  Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle.  You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.


This one is simple, date multiple women at the same time, that way no, one woman can hurt you, the counterintuitive side effect is all the women are more attracted to you. Because you don’t have to say “I don’t need you”. Which she can EASILY see through, instead your behavior will prove you don’t actually need her.

Law 19

Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person

There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way.  Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge.  They are wolves in lambs’ clothing.  Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.


The sexual attractiveness of a woman correlates with the difference, in reality, she has with you. 


The hotter she is the crazier she will seem from your point of view. 


Because she lives in a reality, where she gets whatever she wants with a minimum of effort, while you have to work your ass off.

By all means, date her, but your mission should you choose to accept it, is to figure out is she is just ‘crazy’ or ‘dangerous crazy’

Crazy is she is so hot she doesn’t look both ways before she crosses the street, because motorists would rather die than hit her.

She just happens to be super hot, and deals with it as best she can while, being basically a good person. If you get this girl hold on to her with both hands. 

Dangerous crazy is, she is so hot, knows it and doesn’t look both ways before she crosses the street on purpose, because she knows motorists would rather die than hit her.

If you get her enjoy her (she’ll enjoy you) but don’t get attached, she will either eventually scrape you off her shoe, (if this happens count yourself lucky, though it won’t feel like it) or worse become obsessed with you and slowly and insidiously ruin your life.

Hot girls have done things like, tried to have me jailed and dated someone behind my back after I got stabbed through the heart and was in the hospital. There are no rules with these people. I hope I have imparted the gravity of taking the mission to figure out if a girl you like is safe or not. Even ugly girls with enough delusion will try to ruin your life.

Luckily I have escaped the worst thing a crazy girl will try to do to you…have a kid by you, or claim to have a kid by you. This is the worst because then two lives are ruined.


-Marshall Mathers

Law 20

Do Not Commit to Anyone

It is the fool who always rushes to take sides.  Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself.  By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.


I really should write something here, but do I honestly really need to?


Date till you don’t have to anymore. If you do, settle down with your ‘One’, if you don’t; look till you find several ‘Ones’ and pick the one you want, its the hypergamy way!

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