R.E.S.P.E.C.T Or Treat Others How They Want To Be Treated
So you’ve heard of the golden rule, right? Do onto others as you would have them do onto you. Yea, in the context of dating that doesn’t work at all. No woman is interested in being treated the way you would like to be treated, instead they are interested in being treated the way THEY would like to be treated, which is different for every woman, “But Truth, how am I going to know how to treat whom?” Super easy barely an inconvenience, this is the easy part, they will tell you. “But how?” Listen for “I like” and “I want” statements. If a woman says “I like being outside.” and later says ‘I want to walk through a garden.” Guess what? She likes spending time outside walking, so walk with her every chance you get and she will be happy, remember food and water and you are golden. Now if you don’t walk with her you will have a problem because you are not treating her how she wants to be treated.
Now that was a very p.c example, but the truth is this philosophy works for any sort of behavior, women are into as many things, as there are things to be into, a lot of them freaky (women are freakier than you can even imagine) the problem is most guys don’t believe, can’t keep up with, or can’t accept, these sides of women. It comes down to empathy or a lack of, most men can’t imagine wanting to be treated in such a manner and so they reject the behavior, reject the girl or worst of all try to change her.
E.g A while ago, I got with a very beautiful girl who was obsessed with everyone wanting her and she gave examples of men doing “outlandish” things like looking her up on Facebook just so they can message her, and yea I know messaging a girl instead of talking to her face to face is a %^&* move, but I also know if it was a guy she was attracted to she’d be fine with it. Now did I try to convince her of this? F No! Why would I? What benefit would that bring? If she wants to be “the hot girl everybody wants”, what possible reason could I have to take that away from her? Especially since that’s why I’m there. Instead I was like “that’s messed up, through FaceBook? Why didn’t he ask the strangers in the bar about you and gather intel that way and have them set up a meeting with you, even though he’s only seen you once before?”
Alright now you know to treat everyone the way they want to be treated and you now know to start looking for clues to what that treatment is, but where do you start? What’s the minimum you have to expect, and more importantly what is the minimum you must show to others, without being seen as a door-mat or being played for a fool.
Simple r.e.s.p.e.c.t that’s the minimum, people have to rise that high to talk to you and you have to rise to that level when you talk to other people. That is the minimum requirement, I don’t care if it’s the President of the United States or a homeless person. Every interaction must start from a place of respect and during the interaction the person will tell you how they want to be treated. And while they are doing that you are doing the same, you are telling them you need to be treated with respect or there is no interaction.
E.g Same girl, we end up back at her place, after “the event” she got “buyers remorse” over how quickly it happened (from the point of meeting her, not the actual duration, thank you very much). And I tried to explain that I liked and respected her and that wasn’t going to change. She on the other hand got mean, I had gotten some foreshadowing of this earlier in the night, when she got mean as we were leaving to her place. She said something out of turn (mean) and I stopped her and told her that was unacceptable (mind you she is so hot, I actively wondered what the hell I was doing!) She apologized and the night progressed.
So she got mean to feel better about sleeping with me so quickly, I told her that was unacceptable and left. Now as a black man that likes white women in America as I walked away from her place and waited for my Uber, the words “Me Too” danced around my head. Knowing I was in the right kept me strong.
Now what the hell was that about, on her part? Simple, shit test, she needs to know if I’ll cave like b**** once I get what I want or whether I will stand with my principles of how I get treated no matter what. Simply put I was teaching her how I get treated, and now I’m not seeing her but should I ever decide to, she will always treat me with R.E.S.P.E.C.T. As I will her.